David W. Earle

Quotes

• “You did not invent these family habits. Your family is like mine, for thousands and thousands of years our families have...”
• “Many people look at their past and bemoan their mistakes. Those errors in judgment, behavior, hurting others, and the wr...”
• “If one looks at a balancing scale putting “fear of change” on one side and “status quo” on the other, they are often in ...”
• “My prayer is an attitude of pure gratitude for having the opportunity to experience life on this earth with all its pain...”
• “Is God like the Greek god, Zeus, sending down lightning bolts to cause catastrophic events? Does God decree when tragic ...”
• “The key problem I encounter working with wounded, depressed, and unhappy people is a lack of connection…starting from a ...”
• “The truth is, we tend to train people how we want to be treated. If others know you have wishy-washy boundaries then the...”
• “Embracing doubt is sometimes threatening, as we fear losing our faith if we explore our doubts. Following that thought, ...”
• “To be free to roam our own consciousness and be responsible for ourselves, a letting go process is required. We have to ...”
• “Many of the habits of dysfunctional families use are not from the lack of love but are the result of fear. Knowing the l...”
• “No one escapes some degree of chaos for it is so ever prevalent; it is the human experience. This realization does not m...”
• “Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a l...”
• “Why would God create a defective product? Why would a God who gave me free will require any certain belief? Why would a ...”
• “This wonderful gray of acceptance resides between the extremes of black and white thinking; looking for serenity, explor...”
• “Since children from dysfunctional families are so good at judging others, they also judge themselves finding themselves ...”
• “Others hide from being real by filling the air with words; the more words they throw out, the less actual communication ...”
• “Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon...”
• “Codependency is a learned set of behaviors, thought processes, and habits. When combined together, they fit a very loose...”
• “Often self-love is replaced with self- loathing, compounded by beating ourselves up. We become experts at putting oursel...”
• “For example, I can doubt that 2 + 2 = 4; however, my doubting does not change the equation. When I test out that formula...”
• “When life beats us down, we often do not feel worthwhile to ourselves nor to anyone else. Often, we try to hide our feel...”
• “Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake.....”
• “In order for a person to be able to “turn our lives and our wills” over requires something very difficult for a spiritua...”
• “We can be safe and live with other defined truths exemplified by a capital “T” or we can change and with our limited tim...”
• “Our parents were our first gods. If parents are loving, nurturing, and kind, this becomes the child’s definition of the ...”
• “When I learned about the gray existing between the black and white of absolute terms, I began to experience more peace. ...”
• “As a parent who raised his children in dysfunction, I know the parental wounds my children received were not intentional...”
• “When this low self-worth is hidden, one can understand why the person becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others a...”
• “Reality may not be what you want it to be, but it is the reality you now must face. You can deny this reality and try to...”
• “Like an empty bucket, my soul rings hollow when empty vibrates with emptiness … hollow sound of loneliness. Every cell i...”
• “Other people feel love when we listen without judging and accept them without demanding change. We all desperately requi...”
• “Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns a...”
• “With improved coping skills forged through my midlife crisis, I now listen first and do not control, and I allow these n...”
• “Swirling in a squirrel cage of perpetual motion, the head-committee meets, argues, votes out the guidance available from...”
• “This imbalance causes resentments within the over-responsible and dependency with the irresponsible person and this dyna...”
• “The greater the pain associated with love, the more likely a person is to be attracted to others who will inflict this p...”
• “This woman’s size protected herfrom the hurts of the worldbut it also imprisoned her soul. As the merry-go-round revolve...”
• “Our minds have a great capacity for deception. This does not mean we are necessarily dishonest but if we are not careful...”
• “Children naturally believe without question and absorb knowledge at an incredible rate; since there is no other frame of...”
• “...the state of perfection is an elusive goal; demanding something so obscure as almost unattainable and can become a co...”
• “This is what we desire in intimate relationships but this deep connection is often so frightful that most do not take ad...”
• “Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused another’s pain, ...”
• “When one person attempts to “fix it” for the other person, the connection of acceptance is snapped and the sender and re...”
• “There are two ways of thinking. One is living life based on fear. The other is trusting. Letting go and allowing trust t...”
• “Black and white thinking limits understanding and feedback, two necessary ingredients for successful resolution in creat...”
• “Under this aura of perfection he knows how flawed he really is but his intact denial system keeps this awareness suppres...”
• “Teenagers can spot hypocrisy a mile away and here I was telling them how to cope when they witnessed the shambles of my ...”
• “Twirling round ‘n round -faster and faster …she dreams this circular motionwill take her home, high in the heavens where...”
• “I, like you, was not depraved or defected before birth but created to be magnificent, a wonderful and freeing realizatio...”
• “For many years, I searched for this connection outside of myself but always to no avail. It was only when I turned inwar...”