Harriet Lerner

Quotes

• “If you pay attention, you may find that it is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily ...”
• “Control is an illusion—a fact you will learn very fast if you become ill, or have things fall apart in some other way. W...”
• “Don’t use “below-the-belt” tactics. These include: blam- ing, interpreting, diagnosing, labeling, analyzing, preaching, ...”
• “Our society cultivates guilt feelings in women such that many of us still feel guilty if we are anything less than an em...”
• “Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan but to have any meaning or viability at all a life plan must ...”
• “There’s a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don’t need outside affirmation and praise. This is pa...”